Love is Love.

Today London celebrates Gay Pride and it will mark this day with its annual Pride Parade, whilst also honoring those members of the LGBT community who were shot dead at the Orlando nightclub earlier this month.  After the results of the EU Referendum and the obvious divide in the UK I hope we all stand together in this celebration and can overcome our differences to unite and support our own people who are brave enough to be themselves whilst showing our respect for those who have died because of who they are.  

I remember hearing the news of the shooting last week and I was shocked, horrified, even sickened.  Simply, I just cannot understand why someone would commit such a horrible act?

Was it homophobia?  An act of terrorism?  Or, as some suggest, the manic act of someone who couldn't come to terms with his own sexuality?  We can ponder the reasons as much as we want but the fact still remains; 49 innocent people died that night.  

There were 300 people in that club; 49 people killed, 53 people injured and absolutely everyone fearing for their lives.  Not only that but people outside of the club lost their loved ones, their family members, their friends that night. It's too easy to think about these people as victims and forget that the attack has a ripple-effect, like a pebble being dropped in water the ripples extend beyond the incident or the main people involved.  And as for the victims I am sure this will haunt them for the rest of their lives.

And for what?  They were living their lives.  Having a fun night in a club with their friends, doing what any straight person their age would be doing.  But they were targeted because of their sexuality?  It's a horrible thought.  It's sick.  These people who play God are the sick ones for thinking they can chose who lives and who dies and base it on something like sexuality, not the man who loves another man nor the woman who loves another woman.  Love is Love.  It's pure, you can't chose who you love and it doesn't effect anyone else; but what that gunman exhibited at the club that night was hatred, and it is the most disgusting emotion a human can feel.  

In the 21st century with homosexuality becoming more and more accepted it's clear that there is still room for improvement.  Why is there still such prejudice and hatred towards people who cannot help who they are?  Not only that but it's scary that even in this day and age people live in fear, which is only made worse due to the American's right to arms.  This has been branded the worst mass shooting in America, what does that tell you?  Not only that the shooter had been previously questioned by the FBI yet he still managed to get a hold of an automatic gun?!  But Trump continues to argue and claims that guns are the way forward and the best way to combat terrorism...  It's just utter craziness!  It should never have came down to this but the shooting has brought to light the fact that there needs to be a change in attitude - both towards the LGBT community and towards gun control.  And most definitely more education for our future generations in equality and love and open-mindedness.  

Despite the uproar in the UK I am glad to live here and not somewhere in America where guns are so common and thought of as a right.   I know Brits aren't perfect and certainly there are some of us who are homophobic but we are moving forward all the time and at least guns aren't so accessible to any Tom, Dick and Harry.  I can only hope that we learn from this tragedy and we all unite together to promote love, peace, equality and respect for one another simply as human beings.  To be quite honest these four things should come to us all naturally anyway.

As always,

Love, Lauren x

My name's Lauren and I am addicted to my mobile phone and the internet.

Hello everyone, my name's Lauren and I am addicted to my mobile phone and the internet.

How did I discover this?  Clever me went and lost my phone on Tuesday night. And I had no WiFi in the flat until last night.  I felt completely cut off from the world, and yes, I did go slightly stir-crazy.

I guess I'm lucky I managed to claim my phone on my insurance but going a couple of days without it has made me realise a few things.

Genuinely, I had already been planning a blog post about the use of mobile phones.  Lately I've noticed just how much we rely on them.  Working in a restaurant I see a lot of people; it's funny because pretty much everyone on every single table is normally glued to their phone.  It's just sad when you see couples or people on dates and they're both looking at their phones rather than speaking to eachother... especially on Valentines Day.  Not only that but everywhere I look there's kids glued to their iPhones.  I swear they're getting younger and younger but parents just shove their kids on phones or tablets to keep them quiet which isn't right either; there's nothing worse than trying to talk to a wee kiddy but barely getting an answer because they're too engrossed in Angry Birds or checking their insta likes or what ever an eight year old even does on a phone.  But anyway, my point is we are all guilty of being addicted to our mobiles.  

Now, I thought being without internet was bad enough.  I've been in the new flat for about two weeks with no WiFi but at least I had my phone and my extensive collection of DVDs - re-watching Ugly Betty has gotten me through this tough time.  But then when I lost my phone that was it.

I went home on Tuesday night and I was lost without my connection to the outside world, like genuinely.  I watched some Ugly Betty but that wasn't enough.  My flatmate still hasn't moved in and having absolutely no contact with people was the worst, seriously.  I honestly struggled being alone with no one to talk to for a whole night.  I dyed my hair and just as I was ready to take a selfie and show the world I realised I couldn't... isn't that pathetic? Straight away I needed to share it with everyone, I guess that just proves how addicted to the internet we've become when as soon as you do anything there's such a strong desire to put it online.  Like anyone even cares I've dyed my hair AGAIN.  It was probably the earliest I've gone to sleep in a long time but it felt like there was simply nothing else to do!

Then, the next day I woke up and got ready, grabbed my laptop and headed to work to use their phone and WiFi in order to sort my lost phone situation. After a lot of running around Aberdeen I finally sorted all the important things for my phone and organised a replacement and when I finally came back to work to get ready to start my shift my landlord came to find me to tell me he's been calling me.  Not even 24 hours without a phone and I miss important calls.  I swear that's just bad luck.  Thankfully, some of the guys from work were going out for drinks, so instead of going home to an empty flat, phone-less and internet-less I chose the alternative, to get absolutely hammered and have a great time out.  

Thursday I dragged my hungover self out of bed, quickly got ready and came to work to wait for my replacement phone to be delivered and yes, use the WiFi.  I think if I stayed in my flat I would have been bouncing off the walls at this point.  It's quite pathetic that I literally went to just wait for the delivery, and as soon as it came I grabbed the package and ran away to set up my phone.  But at last I had a phone again and it instantly cheered me up.
The first thing I done?  Download all my social apps again.  And then when I got home last night my WiFi was ready and for the first time in a couple of weeks I managed to go on Netflix and scroll through Facebook while tweeting to my hearts content...   I went to sleep a happy girl.

But when I woke up this and checked my Facebook still so happy to be back to normality only to find that Britain voted to leave the EU I suddenly found myself wishing I didn't have my phone or any internet connection.  Funnily enough it's true what they say 'be careful what you wish for'.

So anyway, like I said my few days without a phone and the couple of weeks without any internet taught me a few things.  I am completely addicted to my phone, and that's just sad.  We all rely far too much on technology, we're all being sucked into it too much and would rather communicate over a device than by actually speaking to one another.  Maybe it's time to put the phones away, close the laptops and actually start living in the moment instead of living through a screen.  

I have decided to make more of an effort to put my phone away instead of being completely absorbed in my online life.  I want to enjoy life and not be sat engrossed by a screen, but I guess if you really think about it we'll never give up technology. Saying that though I think even just this small change will benefit me a lot. We'll see how long it lasts.

But for now my break is almost over and I need to go back to work.  I hope you all enjoy your weekend, and really enjoy it - not just sitting and staring at your screen and not moving for the whole weekend.

As always,

Love, Lauren x

I'll be back in 5.

Hello again,

Firstly, I'd like to start off with a wee apology for the lack of blogging.  But as we all know life gets in the way sometimes and I've just move into a brand new flat which I absolutely love!  So between moving, working and just living life I had to take a pause on blogging... it doesn't help that I still do not have any broadband in my flat so I am currently mooching the work's WiFi a couple of hours before my shift starts.  

But something really exciting has happened in the past couple of weeks.  I have been accepted to study Journalism at Robert Gordon's University in September!  This probably is the best thing that could have happened to me, finally I can get back on track and I know what I am doing with my life. I'm so excited and thankful for the opportunity - I can't wait to start my new adventure.
I know I've used this quote in my blog before, but I feel it's really apt here. Now I know it's time to start something new and I trust it will be the best decision I have ever made.

So, other than moving flat, settling in and applying to uni again I've just been enjoying life back in Aberdeen.  It feels like I'm home and back with my people, I'm starting to feel like the old Lauren again but better... and man that's a good feeling.  I feel so fresh, positive and ready to take on whatever challenges face me. 

Hopefully things will continue to settle, I'll keep making progress and love my new studies.  It's my time; I will live my life to the full and love every minute of it because life is too short not to.   

But until I've finished settling in and got WiFi again (I miss my connection with the world so much I am not at all counting the days till I get internet back in my life.) I probably won't be blogging too much, hopefully I'll be back with a vengeance and some more interesting posts.  

So take care for now, and I will speak to you all soon!

As always,

Love, Lauren x

'Happily' by Sophie Tanner: Review.

Heart-warming, inspirational and absolutely hilarious.

The story of Chloe Usher is not like any ‘chick-lit’ I have ever read.  Through Chloe’s journey to find her ‘happily ever after’ with her unconventional self-marriage we, as the reader, discover that you do not need a man to be content with life.  Chloe is a normal woman struggling to deal with the pressures placed on women by society to find the ‘one’ and settle down.  She makes it clear that you don’t need the one if you can be the one for yourself. 

Chloe lives in Brighton and is involved in a number of different circles, like her ‘grown-up and settled down friends’ and then her normal group which includes members of the LGBT community… but Chloe herself is a heterosexual, just tired of the dated idea that you need a man to complete you.  I think this story really resonates with society today as many young girls are realising that they don’t need marriage, or a man to complete them – they can enjoy their lives whichever way they choose.  In a world where we have marriage, gay marriage, why not have ‘self-marriage’. 

From the very early beginning of the book Chloe decides to marry herself and it’s inspiring to follow her along on this journey of self-discovery.  She has the support of her family, besides her father who thinks she’s being crazy.  She also receives waves of support from the world when the news of her self-marriage goes viral, but she also has to deal with the other side of fame - internet ‘trolls’ who act so negatively towards her news.  Throughout the book it feels like you are on this journey with Chloe every moment of the way.  You get to experience this brand new idea through her life.  This is the brilliant thing about literature.

Sophie Tanner, just like Chloe, married herself which you can read all about on her website.  This makes her portrayal of Chloe’s journey even more powerful as you realise that a lot of this story came from the heart of the writer.  Now this is an idea I’ve never thought of, and I absolutely love reading something completely new; I love how unique an idea this is and really would recommend this book just for it’s originality. 

Like I said, I would recommend reading this book.  You can get it on Amazon right now for just 99p, an absolute bargain for such a great story.  It’s funny, easy to read but has a very powerful message that it is important to love yourself.  This book isn’t telling the readers you can’t have both a relationship and love yourself, it conveys the idea that it is possible to have it all.  And why shouldn’t you?  How far will you go for your Happily Ever After?  Read the book and maybe, just maybe you will figure it out for yourself.