This week my twitter blew up.  I mean seriously, everyone was going crazy over some leaked sex tape made by some girl from our hometown.  And really it was so sad.  I felt incredibly bad for the girl who seemed to handle it pretty well - but imagine how devastating that would be?  Some personal part of you just shoved up on the internet for the world to see, now that would be pretty heart-breaking.  To be honest, I don't know the story, I don't really know what was shared online, all I know is that everyone was talking about her and it was like watching the vultures close in.

I really don't know how anyone could do that to someone else?  Revenge porn?  It's sick.  Absolutely anything shared online has power to hurt someone.  Even if it's something that someone may find innocent another person may find it hurtful.  Especially something like that.  

Like I said I don't know the full story and I guess there's a lot of people out there who think that if this girl didn't want her video/photos/whatever shared she shouldn't have taken/sent them.  That is crap.  That is ultimately victim blaming.  Maybe it's true to an extent but if you have placed your trust in someone then you shouldn't have to worry them going behind your back!  It's a violation of someone's trust and it's a crime.  It's like saying if you don't want to be raped, don't wear promiscuous clothing or if you don't want to be robbed don't own things... ok, so maybe I'm being a bit extreme but you get the picture? 

And it's other girls who seem to have so much to say about the victims of these crimes, really they're slut-shaming.  Which, is disgusting.  I'm sorry but girls can be so mean about each other when in reality we should be sticking together and looking after one another.  Since when was calling another girl a slut or a bitch such a good thing?  C'mon girls do you not think men do that to us enough?  Ask yourself how would you feel if that was you?  You probably wouldn't like it huh?  I know I sure as hell wouldn't.  

The internet is a powerful tool - there's so much information, it's a great way to keep in contact with your friends and family but then on the other hand it's a dangerous world.  There's only one reason someone would share such personal content without the person's consent... and that is to hurt them.  And that's the scary reality of the internet, that it is so easy to do so.  

I have a lot of respect for the victim, I don't know her very well she is just someone I follow on twitter but I bet it took her a lot of guts to stay strong and react so well.  Revenge porn is on the rise, and I find it really sad that people can even consider doing it.  I also have a lot of respect for those celebrities who have also been victims such as Jenifer Lawrence who stood up and spoke out against it:

"It is not a scandal.  It is a sex crime.  It is a sexual violation.  It's disgusting.  Anybody who looked at those pictures, you're perpetuating a sexual offense.  You should cower with shame."

And she is right.  I remember once before my friend was scared to break up with her boyfriend because he had some nudes of her.  That isn't right, people shouldn't have to fear for their privacy, our society is so messed up if that is the dangers we now face.  I guess my only advice to everyone out there would be to be careful, stay safe and if you plan on sharing anything personal like that, something that could damage you if shared, please ensure that you 100% trust that person.  Because sadly I suppose it could happen to you.

Again, stay safe,

Love, Lauren x

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